Faith and Fabric

photo source “Live. Love. Laugh.” … that’s one of those modern day proverbs that seems to turn up everywhere. It’s a pithy little maxim that can also be used as a nice piece of décor to fill a bare spot on the wall in your home. My wife Debbie actually has a tin sign with that saying on it in…
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Lately, my calendar has gone rogue on me. It is beyond bossy. And it clearly thinks it runs the show. Do you ever feel that way? That you are at the mercy of a jam-packed calendar (which really is just a visual reminder of the chaos you feel internally)? You’re juggling married life and, if you are like many people,…
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My husband and I had a traditional Catholic wedding back in 1994. Our wedding day was picturesque; the fall weather in Atlanta was gorgeous, the ceremony was beautiful, and the reception was buzzing with extended family and friends. And yes, the day even included to my husband’s delight (NOT), the “Hokey Pokey.” I married my best friend and soul mate….
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When is the last time you asked your spouse what sex really means to them? While there are exceptions to every rule, there’s a good chance a husband and wife will have different feelings about sex and what makes it important to them. In fact, it seems that our feelings toward sex are largely related to…well, our sexuality. Generally speaking,…
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We married under the shadow of the Golden Dome in the Basilica of the Sacred Heart of May 31, 1986, a year after graduating from Notre Dame. Those early years were lean, yet precious, filled with Greg’s graduation from medical school and mine with a Master’s degree earned part-time while working for Vanderbilt University. We ate a lot of rice-a-roni…
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Photo Courtesy of Salon.com Today, July 13, is K’s and my 11th wedding anniversary. Romance is easy when you’re young and newly married, but family life may have left you feeling more like co-workers and less like lovers. So here’s some tips to keep the fires burning in your marriage even after kids and minivans. * Make time for each…
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The foundation for an open, trusting, loving, and growing relationship I had heard of this married couple, both 60 years old, who were celebrating their 35th wedding anniversary.  During their party, a fairy appeared to congratulate them and grant them each one wish.  The wife said that she wanted to travel around the world.  The fairy waved her wand and…
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Ten years and three kids later, my big take-away from married life is that my husband is not, in fact, a mind reader. This should have come as no surprise to me. In my formative years, I observed successful marriages and divorces. In my late teens, I decided that marriage was outdated and worthless. In my late 20s, I converted…
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I’m going to be blunt here. Before you became engaged to your fiancé, did you ask God about it first? Did you prayerfully seek His input on your decision? Was it your choice? Or His choice too? If your marriage is without a Christian faith, it is doomed from the start. Or if your Christian faith becomes lukewarm, the marriage…
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I was born and raised in Southern California, and  I have lived in Southern California my entire life – I still live in Southern California.  The man I fell in love with and married was born and raised on a farm in Kenya.  He came half way around the world, to Southern California for graduate school.  We met, fell in love, and got married. Now I am…
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Have you ever had one of those mind-boggling moments when you realize that your view of something is way smaller than it should be? Like the moment you realize stars aren’t just little lights in the sky and the universe is much more vast and amazing than you could have ever imagined? A few years ago, I had one of…
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